Today, from littlebutfierce: gender thingies! I'm going to talk about my own gender here, because it's a starting point, and also one of the things I'm really least clear on.
For the longest time I felt like arguments about gender and presentation and all that had nothing to do with me whatsoever -- except insofar as that I was a girly-girl and sticking with that -- and then I noticed that I really sort of hated being called a 'woman'. I can deal with 'girl', but 'woman' = no. When people say I'm a smart young woman or something like that, I want to punch something. (Weirdly, this doesn't extend to other languages so much.)
Eventually I figured out that this is not really a cisgender thing. And neither is getting all giddy when people use gender-neutral pronouns for you, really.
There's this thing I heard from aintgotnoladytronblues, that having a particular affection towards a certain gender/sexuality group probably means you are in that group. Which has proved true for me every single time!
(13 year old me: gosh lesbians are great, being a lesbian would be so cool
current me: *lesbian*
14 year old me: man it must be totally neat to be asexual and not have to worry about all that stuff
current me: *asexual and only worrying about school things*
also 14 year old me: omg those girls in shoujo manga who are so tall and cool and get mistaken for guys are AMAZING
current me: *would never be read as a guy but is definitely tall and cool*)
Of course since I have giant boobs and like to wear feminine clothes and makeup, there is basically zero chance of me being read as anything other than 'girl', and I've mostly made my peace with that. Not being read as a girl means probably being read as a guy, which i am down with in theory but probably not in practice. I want people to call me 'sir' and 'mister' but I want that to happen while I'm wearing lipstick and heels, you feel? (Or, you know, just while existing in my current form. with the boobs.)
'All gender is drag', etc etc., but I'd like people to notice that I'm doing it.
Since my own gender is a very odd thing to me, best described with wavy indeterminate hand motions and best described as 'selections from Homer in the original Greek', I really feel like I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to gender as a whole.
Basically: as time goes on I am getting closer and closer to embodying various genderofthenight posts. It's going pretty okay.
Most of my December posting meme is still open! Give me things to talk about!